How to reject a Narcisstist
How to reject a narcissist
There are many good ways to reject a narcissist. You may want to use this as a weapon in dealing with one as they continually wage relationship warfare. Narcissist thrive off of relationships that hey can manipulate through rejecting their partner. They reject their partner in a variety of ways. Typically the narcissist uses verbal abuse techniques such as ignoring, passive aggressive tactics, and inciting their partner, so that their partner looses that comfortable footing they often have in a relationship. In most relationships it is ok to argue and have differing opinions that your mate, keep in mind this is not the case with a narcisstic personality. A narcissist must always feel that they should be in control.
Your tools in dealing with the narcissist are similar to what they use on you. When they choose to ignore you, walk away, tell them that you will talk to them when they feel like it. To do this you are not buying into their abusive technique of controlling the conversation. You need to just walk away, go see a movie, leave, and do not engage them again until they want to talk. You can say something like, I see you do not want to talk, I respect your choice and I will talk to you when you are ready. Since you are not engaging in their dance you are in control and they will break down and talk to you again. The key is to wait it out.
When they try to engage you in an argument, of which you know the inevitable outcome will be to reject you and your opinion, is simply not to voice an opinion. Tell them you appreciate their idea, and leave it at that. Do not engage in further conversation regarding what they want to argue about. You can simple say you are probably right, and leave it at that. They are validated, and you haven't agreed with them. The key here is you using self control. Remember these people at times are nothing more than spoiled children that are about to have a tantrum do not engage.
Another technique to use, and to use sparingly is to rage, I mean RAGE. When they yell, yell more. You can not use this tactic very often, use it only in cases of emergency. Go nuts, what ever they do towards you, do it back at them. They are afraid, very afraid of being rejected in their core. When you rage this triggers this feeling. Once again, do not use often and hold back on this.
Narcissists are difficult people to be in relationships with. A narcissist may be your mate, your lover, or even your family member. Unfortunately they look like other people on the outside, but you have to remember these people are different. You can not engage in a relationship with someone who suffers from narcissism without changing your ground rules. They are unlike other people, do not use the same rules that you use with normal people. Use different ones. This will not make your relationship with the narcissist easier or even improve it, but it may make your time with that person bearable.